Thematic Thursdays: Go, Team Gay!
A fine brother stands well over six feet tall, with his collar open, fresh cologne on and a corsage laced lapel waiting for his man to walk down the aisle. Not his best man, but his groom, man. This is not an image many are willing to accept. They don’t want to think about courthouse kisses exchanged between a lesbian couple in love. They’d rather cling to ideas of fire and brimstone and clutch their crosses, while swaying like characters in Porgy and Bess, waiting for some glowing apocalypse to ensue.
When Hannibal and I decided to have a commitment ceremony instead of a wedding, we did it to boycott marriage until same-sex couples had the right to participate in the institution. Of course, our parents thought we were crazy, our friends asked questions and we had to keep explaining ourselves. Well, I did. If you know Hannibal well, then you know he’s not one for explaining himself more than once. That’s sort of the purpose of a protest — to call attention to something. It gave us an opportunity to educate.
I was lectured by multiple Bible quoting droids regarding the scriptures specifically forbidding gay marriage and gay sex. I even had a couple of single aunts call me and attempt to explain what abomination means and try to “school” me on the Biblical rules and regulations regarding this rite. These are people, by the way, who attend church solely on Easter and Christmas.
The respect that I have for elders wouldn’t allow me to argue with my family and friends. It didn’t seem that reason nor tact would make the fact that infamous “blue state” values — namely those regarding family structure — that my right wing family sneers at, have proven to be the healthiest in the country. Blue states pulverize red states when it comes to education levels, teen pregnancy rates, health and even marital stability.
While I didn’t take moments out of my stressful commitment ceremony planning — which, after all, was supposed to be about love — to quarrel with each gay marriage opponent, I did politely pose my point of view. People embrace the restrictions that don’t restrict them personally, but “all sins are equal.” The same Bible they were hurling verses at me from not only contradicts itself, but it puts forth some ideas I don’t think these family members would be okay with.
How about this one? “Marriage shall not impede a man’s right to take multiple concubines in addition to his wife or wives.” (II Sam 5:13; I Kings 11:3; II Chron 11:21)
Ooh, and none of us would be married if we followed this one:
“A marriage shall be considered valid only if the wife is a virgin. If the wife is not a virgin, she shall be stoned to death.” (Deut 22:13-21)
I could go on all day farting off fundamentalist nonsense, but my readers obviously have the internet and can do so themselves. The very same groups against gay marriage are the ones whining when they find out about a “Down Low” surge. If all groups were allowed the same rights and respect, perhaps such concerns would vanish down the line.
Now that Prop 8 has been overturned, I’m sure pee-brained homophobes are peeping out of their bedroom curtains waiting for violent volcanic eruptions and chaos abound. I’m just looking forward to receiving my first gay wedding invitation from two friends in love.
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